Tired of your stubborn child. Don’t know how to tackle him whatever you do makes him even more
Stubborn. Oh my god, he has just made it a habit of saying no to anything you want him to do.
No! Shouting at him will only make him even more stubborn and cranky. Stubbornness is the child’s way of testing the boundaries and asserting their freedom on doing or not doing something.
Wondering if you can do anything about it….Here are some tips which can do wonders.
Divert his attention to something else
Diverting the attention of a stubborn child is a good way of making your child not notice or simply forget that various restraints are being forced on him against his will. So, if you are going into your car and foresee a possible battle over car seats, make sure that you start something that will fascinate your child before setting off for the car.
Treat or Toy at the right time
Always reserve specific favorite treats like snacks or toys for the times when you need your little one to remain still. Use this trick at the right time. Dangle your bait (the treat or toy) first then reel him in by telling him that he will get it if he gets his work done. Don’t wait for him to be hysterical else handing him the treat will not work as you expect. Just be careful not to spoil your child to get everything he wants otherwise he’ll throw a tantrum.
Don’t Argue with the child
Arguing with your child when he is hysterical won't make him understand anything. Wait for him to get calm and ready to listen then explain to him. Try to find out What makes him uncomfortable? Deal patiently with him and solve his problem.
Give them options, not orders
Sometimes a child just refuses anything parents ask them. Deal with them by giving options instead of orders for example Instead of saying ‘go to bed’ ask them if they want to listen to a song or a story before going to bed. It will make them feel important. They will feel they are independent to take their decisions.
Also, see their point of view
For example, You promised him ice-cream but couldn’t keep your promise because he is having sore throat still he does not understand this and is angry with you.
To you, that is just stubbornness. To him, he is being justifiably upset because you expect him to keep his word yet you break yours. To clear this mess and be able to move on, you apologize and explain to him lovingly why you did so and you will keep your promise once he is well.
Become a Good Role model for them
If you expect your children to be well mannered then you have to behave in the same way. If parents are angered by minor issues and often get into heated arguments, the children are more likely to become stubborn and express their stress through anger. Children learn from home. So if parents get angry easily, they are telling children that anger is the best way to communicate frustrations. Become a good role model for them if you want them to be well behaved.
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